
Naomi James, our Counseling Manager, was invited to be a guest on BBC Kenya. Her expertise in psychology was required to determine the effects of boarding schools on young children. The following is an excerpt from her interview.
What are some of the effects of boarding schools on young kids, say those in primary school?
Children develop distinctive personality and behavioral traits depending on their proximity to and contact with their parents. In boarding school, children experience the lack of socialization with their families. They need their parents for growth in some basic areas such as physical, emotional, social, spiritual and cognitive development. Separation from their parents creates an emotional gap- a void that children long to fill with what is available.
The effects of separation include acting out, rebellion, delinquency, substance abuse, lack of values and principles in life, eating disorders, unhealthy relationships, and irresponsible sexual behavior. Also, we have noticed that an increase in emotional independence too early in life leads to suppression as the children grow older.
What about in exceptional cases where parents are away working most of the time and they leave their children alone?
Boarding school will be the only option but is not the best for the child. As a psychologist, I know that parenting is not easy. It is challenging in that it may touch on the parents' decision to keep a job and detach from their children, or change jobs or even their career for the sake of the child.
Parents, if faced with these tough decisions, can plan frequent visits to their kids' boarding schools. Also they should choose schools that focus on the development of the child in all aspects of life. For more information, you can contact me at naomi@oasisafrica.info. We're always available if anyone has any questions.
Thanks.